5 Steps to Loving the Single Life

Piggy backing off my previous post, I wanted to stress that I'm all for women embracing their single life! There is nothing better than falling in love with yourself. I mean, until you love yourself how can you love anyone else... and I'm a firm believer that if you can't do things to maintain your own happiness, how can you even begin to start offering that to another person.

Clutch Magazine featured a great article, Five Steps to Loving the Single Life, and I wanted to share some of their priceless advice:

Too many women are wasting their single lives, engaged in a desperate search for “the one,” when really, the one is staring them down in the mirror, waiting for them to remember that “one” is a whole number all by itself, and not a fraction. You may know some of those women. You might even be one of those women. And if so, I have some good news for you: You don’t have to be one anymore!

No matter your age or social status, it is never too late to take charge of your own happiness. Use these five simple and overlapping steps to get busy living — and loving — your single life:

Step 1. Date Yourself. A once-a-month date with you — and only you — is a must-do for loving your single life. Take yourself out to a restaurant and ask for a table for one. The hosts may try to seat you at the bar. Do not let them! You are not there to drink away your single misery or to hopefully meet some dashing stranger. You are there to enjoy yourself and your food. Get yourself a table and sit there — without a book, a magazine, a file from work, or your cell phone. Sit there and just be. Have your drink and your food and get lost in the sea of your own thoughts and absorbing the world around you.

Step 2. Get Uncomfortable. Get outside of your box of comfort and explore the world around you. Expand your horizons by trying something new: taste a new kind of food, study a new language, travel some place you’ve never been, learn about a new culture, pick up a new hobby, read books of an atypical genre.

Step 3. Achieve Career Goals. A wise woman once said, “It is never too late to be what you might have been.” To help you decide what you want to do with your life, ask yourself these questions: What is your passion? If you could make a living doing what you enjoy doing, how would you do it? If you are already working in your desired field, what is the utmost that you could achieve in that field? Visualize where you want to be in your career, and then execute the vision. Seek out mentors who have already achieved what you desire and who are willing to provide you with encouragement and advise you on what your next steps should be and what pitfalls to beware of. Nothing adds to loving your life like knowing that you can achieve a goal you set for yourself, and getting paid to do exactly what makes you happy.

To read more of the original article, including steps 3-5, click here.