Lesson 6: What you allow is what will continue

I was speaking with a girlfriend the other day and she made the comment that if people "didn't like something they should change it." While this is a statement I believe in, it can be a long road between wanting a change and executing the steps necessary to accomplish said change.

So often we are able to identify things (situations/people/etc) that we are unhappy with and no longer want in our lives. We might even put together a plan for getting to the destination we'd like, but executing things can be hard.

We psych ourselves out, give someone another chance, stay in the job/relationship/situation we don't like because it seems easier... there are a plethora of reasons why people fail to change, but I think we should focus on one thing: What you allow is what will continue.

A year ago I blogged about taking accountability for the current state of things in our lives, and putting in the work to proactively prioritize and achieve happiness. As we start a new year, I wanted to share this advice again.

If you can identify things you are unhappy with, feel empowered to take it a step further and put together a plan for change. Once you have that plan, break it down into smaller, easier to digest steps. For instance, many people set goals each year. Take that large goal and break it down into smaller steps that you'll tackle each month. This makes it easier to pin point where you are on your journey to success, along with providing clarity and the ability to hold yourself accountable.

As I shared in a post yesterday, I have an aggressive savings goal this year. Instead of flying blindly throughout the year, I identified my end goal, calculated the amount of money I'd need to save each month in order to get there, and started saving! This allows me to see at any given time if I'm on track.

curlBOX founder and CEO, Myleik Teele, also has some great podcasts on the topic. I'd suggest checking them out.