Jun 2, 2009

Adventures on the CTA - Love is blind?

I'll admit that there have been instances where I've seen someone on the bus and deemed them worthy of a "CTA bus relationship" lol. You know, you ride the same bus everyday, share a smile, maybe even a hello... but it usually stops there. This is the latest addition to my CTA bus relationship file.. or as I like to call it, my BBF (bus boyfriend)...

Last weekend as I was riding the #147 to Water Tower with Caramel Kisses I was blown away by this amazingly attractive guy that wheeled his way onto the bus, literally. From the waist up this guy was the business. I mean, the bulging veins in his arms were making my mind race... his arms/shoulders were a nice size...even his neck game was on point.. and his face? Very easy on the eyes. This guy was definitely "jaw drop" worthy. It was hard to miss the wheel chair dude was rolling around in but I almost looked past it until my eyes made their way down to his calves... which were the size of my arms. *sad face* (Atrophy is an mf'er) This got me to thinking, could you be in a relationship with someone that was handicapped/paralyzed? I'm not talking about having something happen to the person you're already involved with and being faced with the decision to stay by their side... but instead meeting someone and falling for them despite their disability. I have to admit, I don't think I could do it. I want someone to be capable of chasing me around the house... and not just zooming around a ranch style home... but like skipping steps in a townhouse. Maybe if we met online and had a connection it'd be possible... but, ehh... well, I don't know if I'm being shallow or just realistic. I think it all boils down to the lifestyle you lead and how active you are.

So, my question is have you ever dated someone that was paralyzed/handicapped? And if so, what was your experience. If not, could you ever see yourself doing it?

** Please ignore the orange outfit. He was doing a bit too much. lol..**


E's said...

I remember I was in college (a while ago) and I met a young lady who was sitting at a table. She was good looking, so I talk to her, get her info, and get with her a few days later.
So we hit it off on the phone - joking and laughing, I'm hard not to love, right:)
So when I go to her dorm to visit her she's sitting on the bed. And she's still looking good. I'm feeling great about the whole situ. But she keeps having friends peek in her room like surprised she has a visitor, like they're congratulating her or something.
So when I'm about to leave she walks me down to the door (I like to go slow) but I notice she has the Handy Man limp. I'm ashamed to say, I never called her again. And we really had a good vibe going. I'm such a heel. When I saw her later I felt so immature.

Good post tho, sorry for my long ass story.

The Fresh Man said...

Everyone says I'm picky therefore, No.

South Loop Social Light said...

@ E's - Thanks for sharing your story! Not often do you find guys commenting on blogs and sharing their personal stories...much appreciated!

Catherine said...

My boy met a girl that he liked at the club. She spent the entire night with a drink in one hand. They liked each other and decided to go out on a date. When they get out of the car he notices that she only has one of her hands outside of her jacket. He was about to kid with her about pulling her other arm out until he realized that arm was shorter than normal. It was confirmed when they started eating. He then realized the way she was holding her drink the night they met, was her way of disguising the arm. He stopped dating her shortly afterward.

I am not sure I could date someone who was in a wheelchair. I might be able to date someone who was deaf and could read lips... But I like men with all of their hair, so I am slightly shallow!! LOL!!

Ms_Slim said...

Reminds me of that movie by Val Kilmer. He played a blind man and this woman fell in love with him and even tried to get him the surgery needed so that he became a part of the seeing world. He got it and his brain didnt adjust and he was subsequently blinded again in time (because of not being able to adjust to sight). It was a beautiful story though and teaches a lesson in accepting people past the physical and delving deeper into who they really are because physical fades and the insides never die. I wish I could remember the title but if you havent seen it already you should def. check it out.

Now onto your question--I will accept a physical handicap. Love is blind and we can't always control it.

South Loop Social Light said...

@ Catherine - I think that there is difference between being comfortable with your handicap and being insecure and trying to hide it. I like for people to be up front with what they're working with and allow you to make the decision. Ultimately there is really someone for everyone.

@ Ms Slim - I'll have to check that movie out.

The Fresh Man said...

Where is my thank you damnit? I want a thank you. I shared and was honest. *waves finger*

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