Beyonce Spends $6k on Sex Toys?

When news broke of Beyonce and Jay-Z having a $6k "Drunk in Love" shopping spree in a sex shop, it got me to thinking... how does one actually drop $6k in a sex shop?

Jimmyjane Little Steel Tonight

Well, first my boyfriend asked the question... let me give him some credit, but then it got me to thinking... what in the world can someone spend $6k worth of coins on? Gold plated butt plugs, sex swings covered in Swarvoski Crystals, a fancy dildo for each day of the week?

Well, I did a little research (because I live in Seattle and I actually DO have that type of free time lol) and if you're in the market to drop thousands of dollars on sex toys, there IS an actual market for you!

Retailer 'Babeland' (the store Beyonce and Jay-Z were at), has a host of items to tickle your fancy.  I did a little research and discovered the Jimmyjane Little Steel Tonight Eternity vibrator retails for $2k.

Yes!! You read that correctly. 2 Thousand dollars. Why? Well, one end is covered in 28 round cut, black diamonds. If diamonds are a girl's best friend, this vibrator takes things to the next level! Yowzers.

Lelo Yva Vibrator

Or you could buy the Lelo Yva, an 18-karat gold plated vibrator for $3,900!! Those are a lot of coins to drop on sexual pleasure.

Just looking at the prices on these items had my eyes bulging out of my head. Yes, this is probably chump change to the Carters, but all I could think about was: 1) buying a vibrator for $4k OR 2) hopping a flight to Thailand and luxuriating for a week or two. Hmmmm... that's an easy decision to make lol.

So, my question to you: What's the most you've ever dropped on sex toys?

What's your number?

Numbers, numbers, numbers... they're so much fun when you're fantasizing about winning the lottery or how many pairs of shoes you'd like to own - - but when someone asks you the number of people you've slept with, it can stop you in your tracks.

I don't know if it's due to being caught off guard, embarrassment, or a mixture of both... but whenever I've been asked my number of sexual partners it makes me feel a certain way.

I'm not a liar by nature so my first inclination is to tell the truth, but depending on who I'm speaking with I can definitely hesitate and rethink answering this question altogether. If your number is higher than theirs it can make for an awkward situation. If your number is too low then a man will usually assume you're full of shit and multiply that by 3. As a woman that's a few years shy of 30 (and it sounds crazy as hell to actually see that being typed in front of my eyes lol), I realize that by the age of 30 most people have lived a lot of life, ran through some folks, had their fair share of relationships, one night "one and dones," and potentially racked up a nice list of names. Still, I try to reserve judgment because while sexual health and conversations are important, I don't think a person can be reduced to a single number of people they've been intimate with. On top of that, I just don't believe anyone truly wants to know the answer to this question when being asked.


So, when it comes to a new person in your life do you think it's better to be honest and throw your real number out there or keep that under wraps?

Society of tight asses?

Tuesday night I made my way up North for the Ultimate O workshop hosted by the Pleasure Chest. In addition to learning the importance of intentional touch, breathing techniques to spread your orgasm throughout your body, and the joys of anal sex - - the instructors touched on how all women can become squirters, the proper use of cock rings, enlightening everyone on the fact that there were over 50 combinations to achieving an orgasm... and stressed over and OVER again that we lived in a society of tight asses!! I swear, one of my instructors was determined to convert us all into anal sex connoisseurs. Now, I know that some people are reading this with wide eyes or mouths slightly ajar... but I have been fascinated by sexual education for a long time. Over the years, shows like Cathouse: Bunny Ranch, Katie Morgan's Sex Tips and Real Sex have only aided my curiosity in growing even more. When I learned of the workshop on Tuesday I jumped at the chance to go.

After 2 hours of interesting information, we were let loose to explore the store. I could go into great detail describing the toys, treats, and sexual deviant things I saw - - but I'll just share a few of the pictures I snapped.

*By some freak oversight I forgot to bring my camera so had to rely on my blackberry.... I apologize in advance for the quality.

Best Life: Sex 101

The Oprah show has been featuring their "best life" series this week. Last night I sat in amazement as I watched various couples on stage openly discussing their sex lives, or lack thereof. One story that stood out was a married couple of 24 years in which the wife had not had an orgasm in 20 years. Yes, you read that right - - 20 years! It was somewhat heartbreaking to see this woman sitting there opening up to the world about everything that wasn't happening in her bedroom. I glanced at her husband...how embarrassing to have your wife putting you on blast in front of millions that you weren't handling business. Oprah brought on Dr. Laura Berman who counseled the various couples. Here are her 5 tips to a better sex life:

1. Tell the truth - Of course you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but you have to be honest. If it wasn't that great, you didn't climax, etc...put it out there.

2. Ask for what you want - You can't really complain about your sex life is you're not vocalizing what it is that you want. You have to throw your spouse a bone. Nobody is a mind reader...ask and you shall receive.

3. Let Go - Dr. Berman stressed the need to let go of any negative messages you've heard about sex (i.e. "good girls don't do this", etc...)

4. See the Doctor - Dr. Berman suggested that if you think there's a real problem you shouldn't hesitate to see your doctor. Most medical issues can be fixed.

5. Make your sex life a priority - Even though planned sexual encounters can seem unromantic, Dr. Berman urged that relying on spontaneity doesn't work in long term relationships. If you plan to set aside at least one or two days a week that will be focused on building and nurturing your sex life, you will start to notice changes in other areas as well.