'The Tequila Tales' Event Recap

Last night proved to be an amazeballs time as I ventured out to Red Kiva for another round of The Tequila Tales. The monthly relationship-based chat is hosted by Chrishon (formerly of Three Peas, everyone's favorite South Loop art gallery - - currently writing the blog Love Cork Screw ) and moderated by Isaac Paul and Dr. Candice.

As expected, the crowd took a little bit of warming up to let their guard down, but by the 2nd and 3rd drink, people were getting vocal and the groove had been set. I live tweeted the event using the hashtag of the night #TheTequilaTales and there were a few priceless quotes. Check them out here. So, what were my biggest take aways from the night?

1) A lot of people are in denial about being in the "friend zone" - - (i.e. you want them, but they don't want you.) It's important to remember that platonic male/female relationships are healthy, normal, and quite possible to have. A great point was made that if you're rich in friendships and have that balance, the loneliness and desire to be with anyone to quench that thirst (aka desperation) can usually be resolved.

With Isaac Paul and Chrishon

2) Many women put a price tag on their life force. Let's just keep it all the way real -- many women put a price tag on their life force. All of a sudden they need to eat at X restaurant, Y amount of times, for Z dollars. Give me a break. This mentality takes the focus off the quality of person you're actually spending time with and instead focuses on trivial things. If you want to go to a nice dinner so badly there's no shame in taking yourself.. but try and be open to the idea that successful dates can come in many shapes, sizes, and locales! You may grab burgers and beer in a dive bar and have a ball.

3) S-Banging - Meant to be said as one word, SBanging was the funny hybrid (Smashing + Banging) one chick blurted out in a rush. It was pretty funny and might become a new saying I'll use. I'd love to give her credit... thanks random girl! Overall, I had a ball... and I'm not just saying that because I downed 2 of my signature Hennessy cocktails lol... The conversation was lively and it was nice to be out doing something different.

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The Tequila Tales: Adventures of Love & Lust

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It's Valentine's Day all all across the world people are scrambling like chickens sans their heads to grab flowers, chocolate, and anything that might make their significant other feel special. How special? Well, more special than they felt yesterday lol, I suppose.

If you're looking for something outside the box to do today, The Tequila Tales presents Adventures of Love and Lust - - a monthly candid conversation about relationships. The topic for the night: Does SIZE matter?

"Going beyond the obvious, how significant is “size” or quantity in a relationship? Is the size of man’s bank account important to a lasting union? Does the size of a woman’s ego affect her ability to attract and hold the love she desires? These questions and several others will be open and candidly discussed."

The event will be held at Red Kiva in the West Loop and starts at 6p, with the discussion beginning at 7p. Admission is free - - just bring an open mind, good energy, and conversation! You can reserve your spot by sending an RSVP to RSVP@TheTequilaTales.com.




What: The Tequila Tales - Adventures of Love and Lust
When: 2/14/13 - 6p - 9p
Where: Red Kiva 1108 West Randolph, Chicago
Cost: Free 99

Cuffing Season Update: Time is Ticking

Hola Chicagoans...

Cuff Season Shopping Trip

It's freaking cold outside and it's safe to say Cuffing Season is in full swing. This year has really flown by, so it's hard to believe we're in the midst of another Cuff Season, but whether you like it or not, snow will be here soon enough... so what's your current Cuff Status?

I'm currently invading the same life force, but have seen some great power cuff moves being played around me. For the most part my close friends are being about that Cuff Season life and have found quality boos for the season (... maybe more!), so I'm more worried about YOU, the people. Are you still auditioning folks? Try-outs over and you're narrowing it down to the final 1? (or two/three for you players... though that shit is exhausting).

Putting a spin on what can become a very routine thing, I've taken my Cuff Season antics to the streets. The weather is cold, but still enjoyable (no snow, arctic freeze lol) so the boo and I enjoyed a day of shopping (where I snagged these awesome Levi's Demi Curve ID Jeans) and brunch at Waffles.

Waffles Brunch: Chicken & Waffles, Steak & Eggs

I'm all about brunch in the South Loop. Nothing beats waking up and being in walking distance of amazing food options. Plus you get to support local businesses. So far, Waffles is still one of my preferred spots, Tapas Valencia has great Sunday drinks specials, Eleven City Diner lures me in with their Bloody Marys, and Yolk is an oldie but goodie.

Dating and Social Media

Have you ever met someone new and within 24 hours you have a Facebook, Twitter, or LinkedIn friend request from them? I'll admit that I've done my fair share of social media stalking, but when it comes to dating what is the appropriate level of social media etiquette?

In the past week I've encountered friends twitter stalking the ex's of people they're dating, ex's that refuse to allow the other to follow them on social media sites, and those that casually date and get pissed at what they see the other person doing... thus it would seem like social media can cause a shit load of problems.

Personally I've gotten a lot more selective about the people I add on Facebook. I'm not into collecting friends and I barely can think of 20 people I like, let alone having 1000 friends. I feel like Facebook contains personal photos, etc and isn't something I want anyone and everyone having access to. I will easily deny a friend request. Twitter is fun for me and I use it more so for my blog. It's not a big deal to follow people and have them follow me, but for professional reasons I do keep my page locked.

As it pertains to dating, I try to not keep Twitter/Facebook tabs on someone I'm with. I mean, live your life... just don't do anything messy. I'm not sure if it's better to keep social media and personal relationships separate but recently I've seen the benefits. I guess if you know someone in real life it's not that big of a deal to not be all up in and throughout their social media life force? What say you blogging friends?

Words of Wisdom from HBO's "GIRLS"

"It's like you think meeting a guy is the main point of life so we have to have like a summit every day to make a game plan" 

HBO's original series "GIRLS" has quickly become one of my favorite scripted shows on TV right now. Every episode is chocked full of memorable quotes and last night one hit close to home. The above quote made me think about a conversation I recently had with a girlfriend regarding men, relationships and how consuming it can be. Not just consuming, but all-encompassing and overwhelming.

The amount of time that I spend thinking about men and relationships is borderline disgusting. I'm actually appalled at myself for having it be such an important part of my life. Playing devil's advocate, I do believe that relationships are the core of human existence (duh) and therefore one of the most interesting things to try and understand... but my daily dissection of everything someone has done, said, didn't say, going to do, etc is to the point of exhaustion.

Sometimes I wish I could just hit a 'reset' button in my head and start from scratch. Go back to the days when I didn't care about men and got all my joy from eating ice cream, riding my bike, and being awesome. The innocence of a child is a beautiful thing and as I get older I think there's something to be learned from them. They are fearless, happy, and free of the worries and concerns that plague us in adulthood.

Yesterday I went to the "Wells Street Art Fair" with my girlfriends and enjoyed the sweltering heat, fresh kettle corn, and art. I also discovered Bud Light Lime tastes pretty good (a friend told me to not admit to liking that beer since it's so cheap... but shit, it was pretty refreshing lol) and after stopping in a sex shop and chatting up the guy behind the counter (Johnny), I discovered tranny porn was shot across the street, it would take at least a year to master tantric sex, and vampire blood incense is a real thing. What does all of this mean? It means that when you're out living life it gives you a few less moments to be consumed with relationship woes, sunshine and girlfriends are the remedy to any boredom or blues, and life is short so it's best to get to living it.

On another note, I fall deeper in love with my MAC "Ruby Woo" lipstick more and more each day. It has incredible lasting power and can handle heat, food and drinks like a champ. If you haven't jumped on the bandwagon for this stuff yet please go out and buy it. It's awesome.