That's in the past...

Recently I was speaking with a friend who in short said he feared making mistakes in life. It caused me to wonder how someone could get through life without making any mistakes... I mean, weren't mistakes truly life experiences all leading us down a path of growing into the person we currently are today?

Overall the concept of one's past is an interesting thing. It can be riddled with a slew of mistakes, successes, shortcomings, bad decisions, regrets, highs, and lows... but as it pertains to a new relationship how much of the past is truly in the past.

The older I get the more I realize that being judgmental is for the birds and "mistakes" are made every day. I don't believe that poor choices define a person, nor are you the sum total of a few choices you've made. There is no time like the present and in reality you can spin anything to be bad or good - - it's all about your outlook My mom has told me many times that I missed my calling as a lawyer. My tarot lady (yes, I have one of those lol) told me that my tongues is like a double edged sword and very powerful. I'd have to agree with both of them... however, I think I choose to view life from an open-minded standpoint, well aware that "shit happens" and you have to keep it moving. I'm never short of an opinion, but I try to refrain from judging based on someone's past.

I value the person standing in front of me today. If you're exuding an energy that I love and presenting to me a person that is worthy of friendship, trust, love, and time why withhold mutual feelings based on your past? I mean, isn't your past responsible for shaping you into the person that I enjoy so much? In my eyes it is.

Now, don't get me wrong... I'm very well aware of the fact some pills are harder to swallow than others, but when you are in a new (or old) relationship how much of your past do you choose to share? And how much of someones past can be shared with you without forming judgments?

A Tale of Two Wets

Is period sex really that bad?

Yes... I'm starting this blog post with the very direct and oh so necessary question. Everyone wants sex, yet every month like clockwork women find themselves sidelined for a very good reason... for when our periods DON'T come it usually incites panic and sheer terror in the hearts of men everywhere lol.

Recently the topic of "period sex" came up between a girlfriend and I and it made me wonder what others thought. Some men are strictly opposed to it. Some could care less... but when it come down to it, is wet really wet? Or does that hint of red change the game.

Personally I don't have any issues with having sex at any time... Period or no period I'm good to go. I will say that there are definitely days that a woman won't want to be touched, but typically it's not that big of a deal. Grab a towel and let's keep it moving. Need another option? Hop in the shower lol... nothing like some warm water to wash away the red desperation.

This topic might be a bit TMI for most, but I'm random, opinionated and love talking about everything with everyone lol... Thoughts?

Practice Makes Perfect?

Earlier today my guy sent me a link to the new Drake video "Practice" and told me he was engaged in an online argument regarding the chick shaking her ass... (Gotta love Facebook lol). He claimed women were being haters and I wanted to see what the fuss was all about.



So, let's get the obvious out of the way... yes, her room is dirty. Her shit is chaotic. All very realistic things. She's lounging around the "house" shaking her ass in the mirror. All women do that. I think the online "hate" comes into play because so many sub-par or basic bitch type of chicks with a fat ass and NOTHING else to offer get a pass from men.

Now, to be fair and play devil's advocate, it's not to say men are locking these chicks down and giving them rings, but they will get fucked and taken to dinner, usually... so women that have shit going for themselves minus the giganto ass get annoyed b/c they're feeling sub-par to those women.

In my opinion men are simple. Extremely simple. They are visual creatures and like ass. So, to me.. the video was basic. To a guy... it's a fat ass shaking for nearly 4 minutes and they don't require much more. A clean room? A bed that's made? Girl, please... they could care less.

If my ass was that big I'd have half the personality I do because it wouldn't be necessary. Twerk that ass for 5 minutes - - You don't have to talk or do much else lol... but even the fattest ass gets old so you really do need more (which is common knowledge) ... but again, this is a video so it's not that serious.

In reality the video was genius - - a fat ass, super low budget to save $, conversation starter lol... and know what? I'm sure everyone will start shaking it to this song in the confines of their home... some will even post their own video on YouTube in 5, 4, 3, 2.....

Thoughts?