"Stop trying to make it something else and appreciate it for what it is...." - Ray (Jazz Guy)
When Carrie dates ADD Jazz Guy Ray, she finds herself struggling with the fact that he may just be good sex, not relationship material. In the world of dating everyone isn't marriage material, but isn't it possible to enjoy Mr. Right Now while you're on the hunt for Mr. Right?
This is something I feel men do much better than women... dating someone they like that works for where they are in their life at the time. Women tend to want everyone to be marriage material, but it's possible to miss out on some of life's amazing moments when you cut out a potentially fun, intriguing, good person just because "I Do" isn't in your future. Now, I'm not encouraging anyone to lower their standards, but it is possible to have a successful dating relationship without it leading to marriage.
Have you had a good relationship that didn't lead to "I Do"?
* For the record I casually dated 1 guy that didn't lead to a super serious relationship but was extremely healthy, fun and what I needed at the time. I didn't worry about working towards any relationship goal (aka "title") or where we would be in a year... it's was just refreshing and fun.
In relationships we all have boundaries and in episode 3 (season 4) Miranda found herself faced with a boyfriend that was a bit too open... as in leaving the door wide open while he handled his business in the bathroom.
Personally I don't mind a quick #1 in front of my husband but anything more intense is definitely better left a solo activity.
When it comes to using the bathroom in front of your significant other do you have an open door policy?
"When real people fall down in life, they get right back up and keep on walking..." - Carrie
In the 2nd episode of Season 4 Carrie found herself faced with the humiliating reality of falling down in the middle of the runway during a fashion show. She was literally fashion roadkill.
While I haven't experienced a catwalk tumble, I was recently told that the publishing company I've been working with the past 2+ years would not be renewing my contract. Luckily it was written into my contract (when I moved from Chicago and became a consultant) that either party could cancel at anytime, but there would have to be a 2 week notice.
In the last week I've been faced with having to find a job in a city that is known more for their college football team than media outlets. I keep coming back to Carrie's statement regarding how people fall down in life and get right back up and keep on walking. Much like that statement I've been using this employment glitch as an opportunity to remind myself how resourceful I can be and keep on walking.
Regardless of our circumstances life will always happen. It's how we deal with these things that will inevitably shape us into the people we'll become. When is the last time you've had to dust yourself off and keep on moving?
While watching Season 4 Episode 1 of Sex and the City where Carrie turns 35 and finds herself alone at the restaurant and having to pay $70 for her own birthday cake, I was reminded of my own birthday this year - - what I'd like to call one of the worst birthdays ever!
Now, I'm not one to dwell on the past or drudge up negative things but this year I found myself turning 26 and without one of the most important people in my life - - my husband. He was deployed in Afghanistan and I was in Arizona trying to make the best of things. I don't know how it happened but all of my friends were either out of town, busy or flaked... let me clarify - - my Arizona friends lol.
Some of the ladies from a meetup group I had recently joined at the time came out to show me support which was greatly appreciated and a new girlfriend I had made came out too... but as I turned 26 I found myself surrounded by people that barely knew me and feeling more alone than ever before.
I'm an extreme person so I didn't handle the AZ birthday letdown too well. The next day I bought a ticket to Chicago so I could celebrate my birthday with my real friends. Like Carrie was able to salvage her 35th bday with a coffee shop visit with her girlfriends, my posse made sure I had a good time in Chicago.
This year's birthday definitely put into perspective my friendships and the things that matter most to me. I don't want to sound cold, but the experience put up a bit of a "birthday wall" in my soul causing me to never put myself in a position to be let down on my special day again... ever lol.
Have you ever had your friends flake on your birthday?
