Feb 9, 2012

That's in the past...

Recently I was speaking with a friend who in short said he feared making mistakes in life. It caused me to wonder how someone could get through life without making any mistakes... I mean, weren't mistakes truly life experiences all leading us down a path of growing into the person we currently are today?

Overall the concept of one's past is an interesting thing. It can be riddled with a slew of mistakes, successes, shortcomings, bad decisions, regrets, highs, and lows... but as it pertains to a new relationship how much of the past is truly in the past.

The older I get the more I realize that being judgmental is for the birds and "mistakes" are made every day. I don't believe that poor choices define a person, nor are you the sum total of a few choices you've made. There is no time like the present and in reality you can spin anything to be bad or good - - it's all about your outlook My mom has told me many times that I missed my calling as a lawyer. My tarot lady (yes, I have one of those lol) told me that my tongues is like a double edged sword and very powerful. I'd have to agree with both of them... however, I think I choose to view life from an open-minded standpoint, well aware that "shit happens" and you have to keep it moving. I'm never short of an opinion, but I try to refrain from judging based on someone's past.

I value the person standing in front of me today. If you're exuding an energy that I love and presenting to me a person that is worthy of friendship, trust, love, and time why withhold mutual feelings based on your past? I mean, isn't your past responsible for shaping you into the person that I enjoy so much? In my eyes it is.

Now, don't get me wrong... I'm very well aware of the fact some pills are harder to swallow than others, but when you are in a new (or old) relationship how much of your past do you choose to share? And how much of someones past can be shared with you without forming judgments?




1 comment:

Bajan Beauty said...

Let me start off by saying I am a reformed judgmental person. I wave raised in a very strict household where the expectations were pretty high. So anytime I encountered someone that fell short of what I thought they should be I judged them for it. I was also obsessed with being a "perfect patty" especially when it came to being a wife, daughter, sister, etc...I was also always concerned with what other people thought!

Well that was then and this is now, I learned that if it isn't hurting me or someone I love, I don't give a fudge. People do what they want because they want to, it wasn't my place to to judge them because they weren't on my level. People learn there own life experiences at different times. I have learned to appreciate people that have come from experiences that were different from my own. I actually prefer it, gives us something to chat about and lord knows I can talk about anything under the sun, lol. Now it baffles me that some people can't seem to let the past be the past. I was recently dating someone the was so deathly afraid of something going wrong he refrained from doing anything at all for example being in a committed relationship. I was really into him and really liked him but in the end it didn't work. He was too shut off from life to live it and let stuff take it's natural course. I use to be that way but now looking back I sucked! lol. What fun is life if you don't fuck up a little bit along the way! I like the new me, still reserved but not so quick to pick apart someone because of what they have done in their past.

Sorry for being so long winded but I had a testimony about this one! lol.

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