Jul 12, 2010

Vacations = Relationship Amnesia?

This past weekend I ran into a few friends I hadn't seen in some years and had the chance to catch up. They had just gotten back from vacationing in Puerto Rico and when I mentioned that my husband and I were still looking for places to honey moon they quickly told me not to go there with him because "he'd cheat..."

*crickets*

I had to press pause on the convo at that point and clarify to my friends that I'd gotten myself a great one... my husband was beyond faithful, we could travel anywhere together, and he'd never cheat. They just don't make 'em like my man anymore. They smiled at me, probably thinking in the back of their minds "yeah right" but I left things at that.

The convo did get me thinking: too often men go on vacation and their relationships really do go out the window.

I used to date a guy that took numerous trips to Brazil with his buddies... and I saw the pics and videos of their trips - - it's enough to make you itch just looking at them. Like, instantly go to the clinic to get a test, a pill and a shot! The stuff some men do while on a vacation is sickening. I couldn't trust him in a different room in the club, let alone thousands of miles away in another country. However, that was the nature of the relationship - - there was a lack of trust.

I don't believe that all men cheat, nor do I believe that a vacation is a sure fire way for your man to experience relationship amnesia. I think people will, time and time again, show you their character and it's up to you to do with that what you will. Cheaters cheat. Liars lie. Users use... it doesn't matter if they cross state lines, zip codes or time zones. People will always let their true colors show.

Ladies: What has your experience been like having your man go on a guy's vacation?

Men: Is it possible for you to visit an exotic (Miami, Brazil, Puerto Rico, etc...) locale while in a relationship and not cheat?

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