Mar 4, 2009

It's an epidemic

This is something that has bothered me for some time now... I think that there's a devastating epidemic of ridiculously over the top, flamboyant gay guys in the black community - - primarily in the 16 - 25 age range. Now, don't get me wrong, I love gay guys. I think they're fab... but I don't buy for one second that you popped out the womb switching your hips, rolling your neck and snapping your fingers. Every time I go into Forever21 there is always a group of young, gay, black males and they are like WAY over the top with how they're acting. It makes you feel like asking "are you putting on a show?" I don't remember gay guys when I was in HS acting like fools. I mean, I have no problem with guys wanting to play catcher and receiver but why can't you just act normal. I mean, does H&M really require a dramatic entrance? Must you roll your eyes, smack your lips and pop your hip with folded arms? It's baffling and disturbing on some levels. Maybe the best way to describe it is like the way I detest ghetto, ignorant acting people on the bus ... I equally find my stomach doing flips when I see guys that are acting like women... hood ass chicks at that with entirely too much sass.

I was sent this video from a girlfriend of mine and it shows some teenage boys dancing at their school. They're performing to Beyonce's "Freak 'Um Dress" and while they definitely entertain and put on a good show, I must admit that if I was the parent in the audience I can't say I'd be holding my head up high watching my son shake it across the stage better than most women...

Maybe I'm being narrow minded on this one... Any thoughts?

7 comments:

Kiwi said...

I am with you...i think its all these single parent homes without fathers and half the new generation are turining into gay boys...

That is why I promised myself that I want to get married first because I know my husband will never never have my son acting like this...its a mess...

I am in Atlanta so this is not a fad more like a disease...and I am not gonna get into the video...I am speechless he has bigger boobs than me!

Zainab said...

I live in Chicago as well and I see it toooo much. I've seen the ones that actually dress like women and they are only teenagers. I ran into an old classmate of my from elemetary school that had done a complete 180 into a woman and I was completely speechless. At such a young age I'm not sure they really know who they are.

GlamStarr said...

I see that way too much here in KC too girl! It's crazy!

South Loop Social Light said...

I was discussing this with a guy friend and his take on the situation (though I believe he was being politically correct) was that they were just being the extreme version of homosexual as some men can be the extreme version of heterosexual.

I feel like both extremes are a front, usually covering up some other emotion or problem that should be dealt with. I'm kinda surprised that there have been no articles or anything written about this...

thismayconcernyou.com said...

you're going to make me watch an episode of this show online.

And oh, i refuse to watch dude's do the freak'um dress song dance. coonery. lol.

Catherine said...

I also live in Chicago and am seeing more and more of this. These boys gonna break a hip switching like that!! I once saw a seemingly straight teenage boy wearing MAC lipglass. If it wasn't for his flaming hot cheeto friend, I may have not looked twice at him and totally missed the lipgloss.

Secret Squirrel said...

I am the guy friend that the South Side Social Light mentioned in her post. I don't think that I was being PC. However, I do want to fully evaluate this from all points of view. Even still, I have always been bothered by the over the top homosexual behavior. I often ask myself, "can you possibly be THAT gay?" At some point it has to be an act. If so, why do these gay men feel the need to draw attention to themselves in this way? Is drawing attention in this way a part of being gay? I doubt it.

To me, the answer to whether or not this flamboyant behavior is a part of the larger question: "Is being gay natural behavor or a choice?" If it is the former, then gay men are naturally effeminate. Therefore, like most women, they would naturally gravitate toward behavior that draws attention to themselves. For example, most women spend an inordinate amount of time primping and pampering themselves so that they are attactive. If you believe in natural selection, this is done so that they can attact a male. Perhaps flamboyant gay men are doing the same thing. Their over the top behavior may be their way to attact a mate.

If, on the other hand, being gay is a choice, then all bets are off. If homosexual people choose to be gay, then the over the top behavior of some is also a choice. This begs the question: Why? This brings us right back to where we started with the South Side Social Light's post.

"Must you roll your eyes, smack your lips and pop your hip with folded arms?"

I don't think so, but the world may never know...

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